AIO cutting my mom out of my life
My mom and I have a complicated relationship. She was neglectful and abusive to me growing up and the toxic relationship has continued into my adult life. As a child, I was not only exposed to her abuse, but the abuse of the men in her life. She failed to protect me and chose a man over her children every time. Despite all of this, I love her. She’s my mom. She’s the only family I have or close support (even if her support is severely flawed).
She recently met a man 3 weeks ago and has essentially moved him into her home and all but disappeared from my life in an instant. This has brought back intense feelings of trauma and pain for me. I made the decision to cut ties with her, at least for a period of time in order for me to try and heal. I don’t know what kind of response I was expecting honestly, but I am bewildered by hers and even more upset. I feel utterly alone. After 36 years I still feel like I’m waiting for the kind of mom that she will never be able to be.
My mom and I have a complicated relationship. She was neglectful and abusive to me growing up and the toxic relationship has continued into my adult life. As a child, I was not only exposed to her abuse, but the abuse of the men in her life. She failed to protect me and chose a man over her children every time. Despite all of this, I love her. She’s my mom. She’s the only family I have or close support (even if her support is severely flawed).
She recently met a man 3 weeks ago and has essentially moved him into her home and all but disappeared from my life in an instant. This has brought back intense feelings of trauma and pain for me. I made the decision to cut ties with her, at least for a period of time in order for me to try and heal. I don’t know what kind of response I was expecting honestly, but I am bewildered by hers and even more upset. I feel utterly alone. After 36 years I still feel like I’m waiting for the kind of mom that she will never be able to be.