Netherlands rematch, unhappy with hf

Hi all au pairs! I have been with my current Dutch host family since January and have been struggling to enjoy the experience, but I don't know if I had unrealistic expectations of what it means to be an au pair, so here are some things and please let me know if I am right to want a rematch:

  1. I don't live with them. I live in a room on the top floor of the apartment building they're in as well.
  2. I only eat with them 2 nights a week when I make dinner. I eat almost all my meals by myself in my room. I get 50€ a week for all food and groceries, including spices, oil, everything. Breakfast lunch and dinner, snacks, except for the 2 dinners a week I eat with them.
  3. I am expected to be able to finish all the kids laundry (2 boys and a baby), their bedding, baby clothes with 3 different types and each with their own wash cycle type, in a morning. Has to be washed, dryed (without the dryer, only allowed for bedding), and packed and folded by end of the day.
  4. The mom asked me to vacuum her chairs to clean them, dust and clean the top of the cupboards in all rooms, on top of the book racks, I shoveled their balcony clean on my hands and knees to get the dust, spiders and leaves in a trash bag, and I suspect she really wants me to wash the windows as well at some point. In the au pair manual I was given it listed chores we're allowed to do and not, but it wasn't very clear but I feel some things aren't considered light chores.
  5. They haven't put me in a language course even though I've asked about it. They expect me to learn it on my own, and I am only allowed to speak Dutch to the kids.
  6. They only want me around when I'm working. When I'm finished I have to go to my room and sit alone and drown myself in Netflix or something.
  7. They have only asked me questions about myself 4/5 times. I've only had "chats" with them to get to know them maybe 6 times and I've been here 5 months. They don't seem interested in who I am as a person at all.
  8. There are many more subtle things they do and say that make me feel like nothing more than a body to work for them, not a human being who's moved across the world to be part of their home life.

Are au pairs no more than nannies and butlers? I thought this was to be more than that, to be a part of the family. I have tried to hold out, change myself to accept the circumstances, but I will always be unhappy here. Am I being unreasonable? Is a rematch worth the risk and effort?