Do avoidants like keeping belongings of exes?
Just a random thought..
I noticed the FA i dated always had stuff around her home from different ex lovers, even flings. We went NC for a year and when I saw her again, she still wore a lot my clothes (i make clothes), still uses the things i bought her, had my branded stickers all over her fridge, and even a necklace that i bought her. Unlike her ex lovers, it wasn’t just one or two items.. Meanwhile when we were in NC i hid away from everything that reminded me of her, even music. She also never unfollows me from socials, admited she only muted me.
Do y’all have similar experiences? It’s like they don’t even feel anything when they see something that belongs/links to you.
Anyway same avoidant shit happened and we’re in NC again now, its all so horrible. For the first time, I really have the firm thought to want to move on from her, even though it feels impossible in my heart. This subreddit has been super helpful, it really validates my unanswered questions and doubts that she will never give me.