Which side of your parent’s family more toxic?

I’ll start first.

Personal experience, I was at my late grandparents house for hari raya. My dad’s side ofc. Their family was big, I meant really big. But for some reason, I was treated like an outcast. Like I don’t exist. No one talks to me. My cousins, my aunts, my uncles, none of them talked to me throughout the whole entire time. It was like this every year until both my grandparents died.

Then I found out none of them liked me bc of some drama that happened between my parents and them while my mom was pregnant with me. One of my aunts was trying force my mom to take in one of their anak luar nikah while she was pregnant with me but my mom stood her ground.

And they apparently have a nickname for me to talk shit behind my back just bc i was born on deepavali

Well it’s one of the many drama so what’s yours?