What you're parent says vs. what they actual mean.

I raised you!!!

Translation: you grew up most likely raised yourself.

You should be happy I didn't have it as good as you!!

Translation: I don't perceive the abuse I afflicted on you as bad as my parents did to me. Suck it up.

I put a room over you're head and food on the table and you have the nerve to complain!!!

Translation: I did the bare minimum I'm suppose to do that even prison does but I deserve to be applauded for it.

Fine, go find another home.

Translation: I want you homeless.