Did Tamlin really deserve the hate and loathing he got?

Unpopular opinion: I don’t hate or dislike Tamlin 🤷🏾‍♀️.

By the end of the series, I still couldn’t understand why they were doing him so dirty. If anything, I felt extremely bad for him and felt like he was the one done dirty. He wasn’t lashing out until Rhys came into the picture secretly plotting on his girl. Rhys was lowkey scheming 😂. I don’t feel like Vi did that relationship any favors either. She chose to suffer in silence and expected him to read her mind most times. Yes he was extremely over protective, but it wasn’t out of spite or ill will. He too was traumatized and suffering. The #1 problem with their relationship was lack of communication. Nobody was talking!! Everybody was suffering in silence and throwing tantrums. Never was Tamlin the horrible person she made him out to be. He was just deeply in love with her and wanted her safe above all else especially with the rising war. But she spun it like he was trying to lock her up and throw away the key and I can’t bring myself to believe that was ever the case. He went through A LOT and at no point was his grief ever recognized or acknowledged. They preyed on his grief and used it against him. EVERYBODY DID! So much so that my man was suicidal by the end of the series 🤦🏽‍♀️.