It's not your job to "avoid leading people on"

I've always been told that me having to reject someone is my fault. I shouldn't of smiled at him. Or looked at him. Or dressed that way. I shouldn't of laughed at his joke. I was looking for attention. It's always painted out as if I intentionally lead the person on so I could shoot them down for my own personal ego boost. I find myself holding back on being myself and generally expressing positive emotion or being comfortable through fear of not wanting to give someone the "wrong idea".

When you're at the gym don't acknowledge anyone, look unapproachable, watch where you're stretching because you don't want people to think you're there for attention. You want to ne respected. You don't want to be one of "those girls". Don't be pleasant to men you don't know because they might get the wrong idea, and if they do and you have to reject them that's your fault. It's not your fault. Smile if you want to. Laugh if you think somethings funny. Make eye contact. If someone finds that attractive that's OK, and if you don't reciprocate those feelings that's OK too. You shouldn't down play your positive qualities or constantly have to sport a bitch face.